Why so much hate is directed at black Africans and everything about being black.

Black Africans are thoroughly criticised in relationships. Many black men admit they prefer yellow women so that their offsprings can be spared the black tint. Among the Kenyan youth, dating has geared up from searching for just 'a beautiful girl whom you rhyme with' to 'a yellow-yellow girl who i can flaunt before my friends.' Black girls are seen as wife 'material' but not as girlfriends....

‘ I hate that I am black and not lighter like them.’

‘This type of hair is not good hair. You need to straighten it to look better.’

‘You are very pretty for a black person.’

‘You are too dark for me. I only go out with lighter-skinned women.’

‘Did you comb your hair? Go back and make it presentable or put on a wig.’

‘I like the extensions better. Your hair is too African.’

‘Take this cream to remove the dark tint. It will make you more attractive to men. They like yellow-yellow women.’

‘How did you grow such long hair? Are you of mixed descent?’

‘African children need to be beaten. You are not like the whites who learn faster.’

‘Video vixens needed. Only light-skinned women allowed to audition.’

‘Black models are required to carry and do their own makeup. We do not have make-up artists for their skin tone.’

‘Yo mama soo black, her picture was tagged ‘scratch and win’.’

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These are just a few examples of what you see and hear on the radio, tv, posters, schools, workplaces and in daily conversations here in Africa.

As I was growing up in my early teens, my primary school English teacher gave a reason why he whipped us every day for every mistake we made in essay writing, ” I punish you girls this much. You are not white children for their heads are not as thick as yours, they understand things faster than you.” The beatings, I remember, were so intense that per day on average I was whipped 50 times for each subject depending on how many questions I had failed. I was bad at maths. Out of 50, I used to score 20 my best was 25. Calculating the whips……..that is 30 or at least 25whips that day for every question I wronged. No wonder I hated maths and school.

Looking back at those days, I now know that was child abuse and pure racism. How many children in Africa undergo such kind of mental trauma not only from teachers but from the internet and media, and parents do not know about it?

The mixed descent Africans occupy an unspoken niche’ in African society. They are categorized highly and get better treatment and praises from people around them. They are seen as the prettiest, cutest, popular and likable. You see them on TVs as presenters and anchors, videos as vixens, with rich guys and women. Their faces grace hair products, billboards, and adverts on television. Close to that, hair companies produce synthetic hair that resembles the mixed hair (looser curls or straight).

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Basically, mixed-race descendants have no fault in this at all. Most don’t know what really goes on. However, black Africans feel the sting of invisibility from the media and the beauty industry. Things are changing and more black Africans are accepting who they are by joining fashion and beauty events, creating v/blogs and other activities to make them known worldwide.

There was a case in Nairobi where high-end local restaurants were accused of racism. The hotel staff was all African, even the manager, and owner. African customers had complained about Caucasians and Asians foreigners being served first before any African, even if you came first. This is also seen in queues in immigration offices, banks, visas and schools. Another racism case was also in a Chinese restaurant in Kenya where Africans were not permitted to enter its premises. The government acted quickly to abate the situation after Twitter, Instagram and Facebook went berserk with videos, comments, and tweets from angry Kenyans.

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Self-hate is also seen in the way many Africans view their hair. More than 80% of local African schools force girls to shave their hair under the reason that hair disrupts learning. The shaving is justified by principles under the statement, ‘ Girls will spend no time in the mirror making their hair, thus creating more time for books.’ This statement is wrong when viewed from all academic angles.

Caucasians and Asians attend school with heads full of hair and end up performing much better in academics. International African schools allow their female students to keep their hair and yet their academic prowess is flawless. The remaining local African schools, many which are provincial and national schools, allow females to grow long hair under one condition: it should be straightened. The hair is banned if worn in its kinky state as it is considered nappy and untidy. There are few exceptional schools that allow extensions and hair accessories to be worn but under strict regulations as to which place and time.

This backward thought about African hair is carried forward from the school environment to the workplaces. Many interviewees attend interviews with wigs or extensions to have a better chance to get a job unlike going to face your may-be employer with the cloudy kinks. Professionals standards of companies vary but many remain rigid in the hair policy it is either you keep it straight or covered, or kiss the polished floors goodbye. Thanks to the Black Movement that started in the USA, African businesses have begun to restructure their policies that touch on Africans welfare.

Black Africans are thoroughly criticized in relationships. Many black men admit they prefer yellow women so that their offsprings can be spared the black tint. Among the Kenyan youth, dating has geared up from searching for just ‘a beautiful girl whom you rhyme with’ to ‘a yellow-yellow girl who I can flaunt before my friends.’ Black girls are seen as wife ‘material’ but not as girlfriends. Thus, young men spend their youths playing bad boys with the lighter shades and when age starts kicking in, they settle with a black girl to give him children and wash his clothes, then as time goes by, they get a yellow mistress to show off to friends and fulfill his fantasies.

For many centuries, black Africans have faced countless tribulations of racism from the world and colorism within their borders. Despite the setbacks experienced for being darker than most races, the Black Movement is restoring courage of many black girls and boys bit by bit, the courage that moves their heart to accept what they are and who black Africans are.

What affects diaspora Africans, directly affects those in the African continent. There is still room for improvement as the world changes.

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  1. Others do it to us, and then we do it to ourselves! To reverse this, the answer is selflove! Only then can you truly love others. Jesus’ commandment is to “Love your neighbor as you you love yourself.” Lets make this our mantra, “Loving others begins with loving me.”


    1. The reason why people hate unique things is because they are different. They are above normal. This why Africans are treated this way. We are different and others use this difference to put us down. The worst of all is those africans who reject who they are. Their minds convince them they are not black. They associate everything African with negative vibes. Since they don’t love themselves, they can’t love others. You can’t give what you don’t have. But there is hope in every situation.


      1. Yes, my dear young daughter. You are wise beyond your years. Stand in your truth♡♡,glory in your Blackness♡♡. Nobody can take that away, so don’t give away your self esteem.


      2. Be proud, life is a mystery, we blacks are the cause of this world with intelligent power. Those who consider themselves white now, they were once black, who left Africa for a long time and stayed in a climate below the freezing point and lost their pigments. Knowledge is power, the more we learn and explore, we realize that we know little about the world and the climate impact on the formation of animal figures and skintones. Lack of knowledge drives people crazy and treats others who look different, in different and harsh ways. There were many hidden and untold stories. This modern-day technology and that opportunity is good for sharing knowledge. There are taboos that were really frustrating. Unique things related many times, with bad luck or condemned by the Gods or Goddesses. When a black family had a child of light color, the child was killed or the mother disappeared with the child. Same with eye color. This kind of thing still exists in Africa. In Ethiopia, the family kills the child if she or he gets the first teeth, on under the jaws. In Sudan, married couples are still burying their first child under the entrance door. They believe that the child takes all the bad spirits from the family, where he would live with. Such stupidity still exists in many parts of the world.That was why we did not fight them.


  2. Your article is spot on but you are not saying anything new. I thought you had answers/solutions for discussion. I think Africans can turn this around themselves through self love which you raised as an issue. We can’t control what others think of us. If their ignorance entertains them, let them be amused.
    Why hatred towards Africans? I think someone in ancient times made that decision for us, much like someone also decided on the women’s suffering today. So, our sonewhat reckless decisions today affect our future generations. Making sensible decisions is the responsibility we have towards future generations but at the rate we are going, I’m not sure we understand the implications. The future generation will wonder why things will be the way they are.

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    1. I have no answers to solving thus hate against one race. What bothers me most is the hate Africans show each other. Only individuals can decide to stop this and start being a good example the next generation. Its just like the racism problem. Solutions were given, options were made and still, there is no change. Racism still exist. That doesn’t mean it will never end. This generations why racism is still there after years of fighting and making laws. Somethings have to end by self-decision.


  3. I think it is a problem of miseducation. The extended learning process is “ a life to journey,” has become a deficit in those with whom allow system to misinform them. Most people were not educated but trained to be pillows of this global society. You train a dog what you want them to do as you train people how you want them to think. The difference differs by the species. But the educational approach tend to be cleanly similar. However, a dog does not think but people do. While you teach the dog what you want them to do, you teach the person in what you EXPECT of them. In this system of miseducation, the educator approach education as the master would train his pet. As smart as the people may seem, their of education experience little above the dog.


  4. Good points made. You want a discussion….. how much time do you have? The broad & finer points will be hit….. only. No “politics” involved.


  5. Unfortunately, despite equality rules or policy on paper, prejudice will always exist in some form or another. Whether it’s what tine your skin is or what color your hair is, labeling blondes as dumb or redheads as demon spawn. There should be no preferential or special set of standards or rules (regardless of whether they hinder or HELP) given to anyone based on race, gender, religion ect.


  6. In this world of black and white there has been a long term effort by many who aren’t black to try and make us black people feel that we’re the inferior ones, when we’re not. Think of who spends more money, the sun tanners or the bleachers in this world? Many of the most beautiful black sisters think that they’re not beautiful and that’s really unfortunate. You’re the ones who are the most beautiful and you just won’t accept that. If you’ve seen anyone who has bleached their skin, it’s usually not looking very good. The bleacher just thinks that it is. If I was to pick a mate just on her skin color, I would choose a dark skinned mate. I picked mine because of the color of her character first and how she looks far down my list. BTW, she is a very fine looking woman, even after many years of marriage. We can’t control how people who try to make us feel inferior, but we can control how we feel about ourselves.

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  7. In all sincerity, its a function of enlightenment and confidence. If I may borrow Avril’s phrase: ‘We can’t control what others think of us. If their ignorance entertains them, let them be amused’.
    I enjoyed this insightful post and appreciate your laudable effort at keeping the issue in everyone’s view. Great work.

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  8. This mentality is not only in Africa but pervasive in the African diaspora. Here in America blacks have and still do inflict this form of self hatred. Obviously it is a direct result of colonialism and slavery. But we must not allow this be an excuse to harm and hate ourselves. There must be a renewing of our minds so that we can truly love ourselves.

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  9. Black is beautiful yellow is absolutely but people are human beings all different flowers in the garden beautiful holiday young black not white because of a reason papers White Caucasian skin people hello and how are you compared your content people people and it all from the heart not going to skin a lot to try to get in where you fit in people have a sick feeling about who looks like they’re so beautiful intelligent and all of them can serve a purpose in God’s world not Satan’s world we have bishop and pray for the ones who sick good thinking that it’s all about what you look like in your skin how sad is beautiful black is beautiful American got all different colors of the flower garden so we have to be vigilant thankful to God has a Truecaller in the hearts and the man of the people that care about people not the skin you can’t win that way God bless you and let the Angels camp around you


  10. Happened upon this photo via Pinterest. I think the woman in the picture is stunning! The photographer lived in Brazil and I’m pretty sure the young woman pictured did also. I wonder what her life was like then. Not sure of her “class” status. Don’t know why I was so moved when I looked at it. Tomboy620 what you’ve said, sadly is nothing new. I grew up in the 80’s and i’m stunned at how nothings really changed that much when it comes to conversations, and obsessions, about the tone of black skin, our bodies, or the texture of our hair and how we choose to style it. We must continue to reject society viewing us as novelties. I believe self-love is invaluable.

    I enjoyed reading this post and the replies. Thanks for sharing


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